Relationship Mathematics (Part 4)

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“A forward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends.” – Proverbs 16:28; The Bible

Dividers are represented by the division sign ÷ or /. When dividers show up in one’s life, expect trouble, chaos and confusion. Dividers exist for one purpose: to fracture or sever your existing relationship. If you have a relationship with an additioner or a multiplier which has blessed your life, a divider can rupture the relationship. If you have an issue with a friend, a divider may counsel you to do away with the friendship altogether especially if he or she consider the friend to be a threat.

The primary weapon of a divider is the tongue – words:

A man that beareth false witness against his neighbour is a maul, and a sword, and a sharp arrow. – Proverbs 25:18; The Bible

Their tongue is as an arrow shot out; it speaketh deceit: one speaketh peaceably to his neighbour with his mouth, but in heart he layeth his wait. – Jeremiah 9:8; The Bible

My soul is among lions: and I lie even among them that are set on fire, even the sons of men, whose teeth are spears and arrows, and their tongue a sharp sword. – Psalm 57:4; The Bible

Note “their tongue a sharp sword.” This means that their tongue is an effective weapon.

Sometimes an additioner or multiplier in your life may not be comfortable with the subtractors or dividers that you have in your life. This may lead to a tussle, if you are not sensitive of the struggle between good and evil, you may end up dumping the people God sent to you and cleaving to those who want to sabotage your destiny.
Dividers gossip, backbite, tale-bear and lie with ease. They preface their discussion with “Please what I want to tell you, do not tell anyone” or they may act spiritual “We really need to be praying for Sis. Lagbaja“. However, after the long/lengthy discussion, no prayer will be made or sometimes to ease their consciences, they may mutter some prayers.

A divider operates in temporal loyalty as occasion demands. A divider is never permanently loyal to anyone but himself. He is a friend to no one but his interest.
When they are in a church or organisation, they create factions. When a divider is an in-law or a friend to a married or engaged person, he or she seeks to destroy their relationship. They know how to cleverly present a case to favour them. They arrange the various scenarios and quote words out of context in such a way that you will crucify the other party. Swearing in the name of God means nothing to them. Lying before spiritual authorities is a light thing to them. They always have something negative to say about people. Some of them are charismatic, some are gifted and talented. Some of them have Absalom Complex; they pretend to have a superior solution but they are driven by their lust for power and position:

Absalom said moreover, Oh that I were made judge in the land, that every man which hath any suit or cause might come unto me, and I would do him justice!… And on this manner did Absalom to all Israel that came to the king for judgment: so Absalom stole the hearts of the men of Israel. – 2 Samuel 15:4,6; The Bible

Some of them have the Diotrephes Syndrome

“I wrote unto the church: but Diotrephes, who loveth to have the preeminence among them, receiveth us not. ” – 3 John 1:9; The Bible

They cannot bear to see the spotlight on anyone, except themselves. They will try to put out the ‘candle’ of others thinking that by doing so theirs will shine brighter.
David was a man who had subtractors and dividers in his life and he made this passionate prayer:

“Hide me from the secret counsel of the wicked; from the insurrection of the workers of iniquity: Who whet their tongue like a sword, and bend their bows to shoot their arrows, even bitter words: That they may shoot in secret at the perfect: suddenly do they shoot at him, and fear not. They encourage themselves in an evil matter: they commune of laying snares privily; they say, Who shall see them? – Psalm 64:2-5; The Bible

Human beings sometimes look for excuses to blame their lot in life on. The best way to live, is to take personal responsibility for one’s actions. Everyone is capable of wrecking his or her life through strings of bad decisions but the influence of the relationship we have matters a lot, as it creates an environment for certain things to blossom or wither.

The key is the ability to manage the various relationships we have with godly wisdom. People do change. Your greatest liability today may be your greatest asset tomorrow. Saul was a subtractor to the body of Christ but later became one of its greatest asset as a multiplier.

Last words on Relationship Mathematics

Love everyone but discern the purpose for which the people in your life are there. Without purpose, abuse is inevitable. You can find out the purpose by going to God in prayers. Honour the relationships you have. Celebrate them. Seek the good of everyone. Unblock relationship blockages by being quick to forgive and letting them know that you treasure your relationship with them more than whatever issue is at stake. Love people not for what you can get from them or what they can contribute to your life. Be a blessing to the people in your life.

A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. – Proverbs 18:24; The Bible

God has sent people into your life, discern them today.

You will get there.

Source: Emmanuel Abina

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